8 for 2018- 4 to drop, 4 to pick up

        I hope you enjoyed my last post on my top 17 obsessions of 2017.  Now that 2017 is officially going to be in our rear view mirror, it’s time to put all of our focus in 2018.  I’m usually one of those people who rolls their eyes ((HARD)) at people who use the term “New Year, New Me”, but now I think every day, every moment is a chance to turn oneself into their newest and best version.  You don’t have to wait until January 1st and if you do make January 1st your redo day and you “mess up” on January 3rd, than you have another moment to try to make it right.
          2018 is a very important year for me and a year that I am really focused on making a great one.  I want to get my crap eating under control, get my migraines at bay, get rid of my rosacea, tame my anxiety, improve my relationship with money and get in amazing shape for my wedding.
   In order to help me with all of these lofty goals for the next year, there are 4 “habits” I plan on dropping, and 4 “habits” I plan on picking up.  Think of these as my New Year’s Resolutions.

4 to drop

* My reliance on packaged snacks*

I was raised on junk food and continue to be a huge junk food eater.  It’s not good!  I have never met a Twinkie, a Reeses or a Keebler Elf product I didn’t like.  Even to this day when I get hungry at school I’m knocking on the snack closet  looking for Twinkies.  Even when I choose what I deem a healthy snack, it’s packaged.  Now granted, a Larabar is WAY healthier than a Twinkie,  but there’s no reason I can’t pack a baggie of berries with some cream to dip it in or some veggies and hummus.  I always lean towards convenience and ease, even though I have the time to do more and treat myself better.  This year I will not be relying on packaged snacks and instead only use it as a treat.

* Starting something and not seeing it through*

I can’t tell you how many exercise programs I’ve began or how many times I’ve started a posting schedule for my Younique business page and I do good for about a week and then totally slack off.  Since consistency is my word of 2018, there’s no more of this!  If I don’t think I can fully see something through, I’m not going to dive into it.  And if I do begin something,  I will do everything in my power to complete it to the best of my ability. 

* My Diet Coke habit once and for all!*

This is a hard one, a super tough one!  I love Diet Coke.  It is a total vice of mine.  I’ve definitely cut back in recent years.  I only have it at home if someone purchases it for me (which is rarely) and I usually only have it at work for lunch.  Being at one can a day for 4-5 days out of the week is a HUGE decrease.  Since I have been on Christmas vacation I have only had it once while I was out to lunch with a friend.  People have told me to have seltzer water as a replacement, but I don’t like seltzer, it just has to be a willpower thing to finally kick this bad habit.  

* Getting anxious over what I think people mean*

I never really thought of myself as an anxious person until the last 10 years or so.  Unfortunately, my anxiety has only gotten worse.  Usually it is only limited to typical high stress situations, air travel or large crowds, but sometimes I give myself anxiety by overanalyzing and overthinking situations about what people say to me.  No more of that.  If someone is going to say something, they will say it to me and I can deal with it then.  If not, I will not work myself into thinking something terrible.  

4 to pick up

*Green smoothies with healthy add ins*

I think green smoothies are a great way for me to get in a serving or two of fruits and vegetables.  Considering I am not a huge fruit and veggie eater, but am a big snacker I think this will help kill 2 birds, with 1 stone.  Also, thanks to my girl The Skinny Confidential, I now have a list of healthy add-ins to try in my smoothies including collagen, pearl powder, matcha, etc.

* Fresh and clean snacking*

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As mentioned above, my reliance on packaged snacks is going to be SO 2017.  2018 will be all about clean, unprocessed snacks.  It might mean a Larabar or 2 every now and then, but I am going to try to keep my snacking very Whole 30-like.  

* Time blocking post work hours*

There have been so many evenings where Nick and I are like , “where did the time go?”,  on a work night.  I find myself being so mentally exhausted after work that I give myself permission to just crash on the couch and surf Youtube for hours.  I want to use my time when I get home a lot more efficiently.  This will include making a lot more dinners ahead of time, blocking out time for blogging, school work and things I enjoy. 

* Reading more for pleasure*

Some of the books on my reading list


I love reading.  There is nothing better than diving into a good book.  However, I find myself wasting so much time after work that I don’t give myself the proper reading time I should and truly want to.  Just today I cancelled a few magazines that I just let pile up and no longer enjoy reading so I could dedicate more time to checking books off of my very long reading list.
So these are pretty much my 2018 resolutions.  
Do you have any resolutions this year??

Tip Tuesday: Just Say No

    The other day I was having a discussion at work with a friend of mine about how busy her schedule was.  While I have never had a super busy social schedule I came to a realization a few years ago that has been very important to me.  The power of saying no.
    Saying no could be very liberating and very empowering.  It could also be very freeing.  Saying no to people or situations that would bring you stress, agitation or that you just don’t have time for is ok! In fact, I feel it is the ultimate act of self-care!  So release the guilt of agreeing and just say no.

     Don’t get me wrong- it’s not easy to just start saying no to people you would normally say yes to.  At the beginning, the guilt of saying no is sometimes worse than what you were actually saying no to!  However, with practice and time you will begin to feel the freedom of saying no and you will be more open to saying yes to experiences and people you actually want to give your time to!

How to Beat Thanksgiving Stress

      The holidays can be a difficult time for some people, especially for anyone suffering from anxiety or any sort of emotional disorder.  I for one usually enjoyed the holidays, but never really felt that they were my own.  My parents separated when I was young and I never spent my holidays in one place- I bounced from location to location.  It became my norm.  So a lot of my holiday anxiety was centered around traveling or the worry that I was going to disappoint someone by not spending enough time at location A or location B or not being at one location at all. 
    This year I have decided to forgo all of that.  My fiancée and I just moved into our own place and are going to begin to make our own holiday traditions and start our own family.  I am going to allow myself to release the guilt and the burdens of family holiday stress and drama.
    One of the reasons I was most excited to have a place of my own was to be able to stay in one central location for Thanksgiving and for Christmas, but even the last few years as I lived on my own I still bounced from parent to parent and from relative to relative.  This year now that someone else is involved in my life, I made it a point to say this is OUR holiday, if anyone would like to join us they are more than welcome to do so.  
    Now, that comes with its own stress of hosting, but it’s a stress that as a former holiday nomad, I welcome with open arms.  I am looking forward to making my own holiday traditions with my fiancée, my family and my soon to be family. 
   However, just because I think my holidays are coming together as I have always envisioned them doesn’t mean there won’t be some bumps along the way and some stress and anxiety that I will have to handle.  So here are a few tips and tricks that I plan on utilizing in an effort to help keep myself as calm as possible.
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  •      Remember the reason for the holiday- to be thankful for what you have 
  •      Don’t worry about perfection, it doesn’t exist any way!
  •      If you’re preparing food, prepare as much ahead of time as possible 
  •      It’s ok to enlist help- don’t try to do it all alone
  •      It’s ok to ask people to bring stuff- if you’re cooking the main dish it’s ok to ask someone to      bring a side dish or a dessert
  •      Have a glass of wine, not the whole bottle!
  •      Try to get in some activity, the endorphins will definitely help!
  •      Have something fun and stress free planned for the next day, maybe shopping on Black              Friday isn’t your best bet! 
  •      Make sure you make some time to enjoy the day and the company!
  •      Remember, it’s just one a day and there’s always next year!