Yay! My first official blog series! The Playing House Series will be all about making the decision to move in with your significant other. This series will cover all of the steps leading up to moving in together and the actual process of moving in together.
This is just my personal take on this situation! I am not a life coach or therapist or anything like that so this is just my personal advice and my personal experiences with this. Just wanted to post that disclaimer!
The first post in this series is all about the most important step and that’s making the decision to move in together!
- Why are you making the decision to move in together? Is it because you are in a serious committed relationship and you’ve talked about the direction the relationship is going in? You’re both on the same page? Excellent! If you are in a committed relationship and haven’t discussed future plans, I feel that’s an important step prior to moving in. You want to make sure you have common goals for your relationship.
- Is it just a financial decision? Moving in together can be a great way to save some cash and lighten a financial burden. However, if it’s the main reason why you are moving in with a significant other it can lead to some other, non-financial problems later on. Don’t try to force a puzzle piece that doesn’t fit simply to save some cash.
- Is moving in together going to help or hurt your relationship? I will be the first to admit that I am needy mofo. I spent so much time alone as a child that I crave time with loved ones now (don’t get me wrong, I still need my me-time!). However, there are plenty of people who love being in a relationship, but still need to retain some of their independence. If moving in together will make you uncomfortable it will undoubtedly lead to some problems in the relationship department. Make sure that any decision you make, whether living apart or together will benefit and not harm your relationship.
- Don’t worry what others think There is no timeline for a perfect relationship. I don’t think rushing into anything is wise, but everyone’s definition of “rushing” is something different. As long as you and your partner have thought and spoke things out, and you are making a decision based on love and common goals for the future, I say go for it!